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Post by joshywa on Jan 7, 2010 16:59:27 GMT
After 1 Year and 4 Months in a great relationship, my partner left me for a seemingly unknown reason, with the greatest explanation being she needed space and she didn't love me anymore.
The fact that she needed space to me implies that she needs time apart, which means she wants to come back at some point, but then she later said that she didn't love me anymore. This is all very confusing, but only because she has said both things.
She told me in the short discussions that we have had so far that she can't be in a relationship with me at the moment, that its only fractionally my fault, and that she hopes we can be friends, and maybe even something more down the track.
I honestly don't know what to make of all the tailspins, it leads me to believe that there is something that she is not telling me about the situation.
She has since cut me off and stopped talking to me, though she said when she was ready, she would contact me and we could talk things over.
I honestly don't know what to think. Any ideas?
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Post by xenalin on Jan 8, 2010 13:17:31 GMT
I'm sorry to hear that, but I'd try to move on. Obviously she's not ready for a relationship of any kind. If you guys had an honest relationship, there's no way she'd go this and that about it. It sounds like she's hiding something. Maybe that's just me reading between the lines, but .. yeah.
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Post by joshywa on Jan 9, 2010 0:13:19 GMT
I definitely get the feeling that something is missing from the picture, something that had occured. However, she has since refused to talk to me for a while, so i am left to my own thoughts, and unfortunately keep coming up with the most horrible scenarios.
The worst part was we were together 4 days before, and i was so in love with her, and i felt so loved in return. That means that what I thought was a feeling of love, and what I thought it felt to be loved, apparently wasn't. So what was it then. I know its not lust, because although we have a great sex life, i don't love her for that, and i can happily go without that part of our relationship. I like the intimacy, and conversation, and support. Isn't that what love is meant to be?
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Post by acerayl on Mar 5, 2010 3:22:24 GMT
Not only am I going through something similar but I have a friend that is in the same boat. His GF of 4 years need space and told him the week before she left out of state for school. Its hard, and people say to shrug it off and move on, but that's harder than it sounds. It took me a while, but I have moved on and so has he.
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