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Post by Diesel on Jul 15, 2009 22:39:05 GMT
How do you usually find a girlfriend? Where do you look? Do you ask her or does she ask you? What tips would you give somebody who never dated a female, but is looking & wants to?
Those are the question I'm currently thinking as I try to find a girlfriend. So, what would you say?
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Post by crystal on Aug 8, 2009 5:38:07 GMT
Well, be alert, and watch others carefully, if a girl seems to be paying attention to you (looking at you a lot) try and make eye contact.
If you make eye contact again, wink at her. If she blushes cutely, and gets flirty, flirt right back.
Basically, someone has to take the "aggressor" role, and initiate (or nothing will likely happen) Thing is, you don't need to be overly direct and brash about it. Just do some good nonverbal communication, and if shes sending out the right signals, make a move (ask her to coffee, to dance, a drink, etc)
Irony is that I have ZERO dating/social experience (in this life at least) go figure... I attribute it to a ton (or three) of common sense.
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Post by chikasa on Nov 18, 2009 0:37:59 GMT
I'm in high school, so i don't know whether the situation is different for you. i always stake out the place with my gaydar, then when i'm sure someone is gay, i'm really really nice to them and i become their friend. Then when i'm pretty good friends with them, i simply look into their eyes one day and tell them i like them. I know my method is unorthodox, but it's worked for me without fail for all 6 girls i've ever dated.
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Post by budda429 on Mar 25, 2010 1:47:58 GMT
well i found my wife realy quick! but im a blunt girl we hit it off fast but here is a pointer or 2. If u get the vibe that someone is looking at u and u look and someone is they prob. r staring at something they like. also if u do hit off a conversation with a girl u like tell them, u r who u r and see what they say u dont want to be friend someone who is going to find out and not like it. it worked for me be blunt and proude. plus almost all the girls i thought were straight werent and the ones that werent were adventurase. sorry about the spelling!!! go get her girl!!!
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Post by leahhh on May 21, 2011 13:33:45 GMT
In my area and in my school there aren't many bi or gay girls, atleast not openly.. I am always falling for straight girls and that can never be emotionally healthy. This stuggle might lead me to leave my area when I am a little older, to somewhere where it will be easier for me. I am not yet 'out' to my parents and the thought of telling them makes me feel so sick. I have told a few close friends of mine who have been very accepting and gracious. It's not that i'm scared that they won't accept me, my mum has always said that to me and my brothers. I am more scared about her patronising comments, her thinking i'm going through a "phase", and being paranoid about any girl I bring over, or any girl's house I go too - incase we're an item.. That's what I'm worried about. I think if I had a girlfriend I would have more incentive to come out to my parents  |
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Post by cat on Sept 22, 2011 3:22:02 GMT
Ieahhh I am in the exact same situation!!! I officially love this site, there are actually people in the world like me ^^ Yeah I KNOW my parents would think this was a phase, and I thought so for the first month or so when I kinda found out, so I ignored it. But that didn't work out well, and I can say I'm 85% sure this is NOT a phase. Phases dont make you r body tingle and ur heart race when you look at a girl u have a big crush on,  at least i dont think so... |
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Post by purplebear103 on Oct 8, 2011 17:05:50 GMT
This is the perfect website I'm trying to find a girlfriend but at my high school there not that many openly bi or gay people. How do I find a gay or bi girl? If I find one I would love to come out to my family as a open bisexual. Please help.
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Post by commik on Nov 18, 2011 9:26:46 GMT
Well, be alert, and watch others carefully, if a girl seems to be paying attention to you (looking at you a lot) try and make eye contact. If you make eye contact again, wink at her. If she blushes cutely, and gets flirty, flirt right back. Basically, someone has to take the "aggressor" role, and initiate (or nothing will likely happen) Thing is, you don't need to be overly direct and brash about it. Just do some good nonverbal communication, and if shes sending out the right signals, make a move (ask her to coffee, to dance, a drink, etc) Irony is that I have ZERO dating/social experience (in this life at least) go figure... I attribute it to a ton (or three) of common sense. 12 years of being an outed lesbian and this is the best advice to get a girl I've heard yet. My thoughts exactly! I would add one thing, make sure she's not completely wasted. I've fallen for many a straight women from drunken actions and signals. No bueno! Now though I am happily married to a wonderful woman, and it all started with a shared vibe and calculated flirtation |
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Post by azdazy123 on Jul 18, 2012 23:15:58 GMT
i just graduated high school never really dated a girl close to me it was always long distance internet relationships its hard to find a girl without just going up to her and saying hey you wanna woman in your life
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Post by pettygirl on Aug 2, 2012 0:27:39 GMT
I've never had a girlfriend. Hoping to get more into the /girl/ dating game when I go to college. Until now I have always been with my mom who is super against gays. But yea. I'm clueless when even guys flirt with me so spotting a good canidate for a girl is going to be hard.
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Post by ktkay on Sept 9, 2012 2:06:26 GMT
I wish I had some insight into this. I have only had one "girlfriend" and she was just doing it to impress her boyfriend. She wouldn't even touch me if he wasn't around. I figured beggars couldn't be choosers. I do know one girl who gets a lot of girlfriends. I think the big thing for her is looking/dressing the part. I noticed it myself, when I cut my hair short more women noticed me. But I don't know. I'm fishing in a small enough pond with men, it would be very difficult for me to meet a woman I think.
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Post by watchmefall on Oct 29, 2012 18:41:50 GMT
I have only had one girlfriend and I'm just about to go into my first year of highschool, but I usually find a girl by mutual friends. I don't often go for bisexual girls because I feel like it's less commitment on their part. I usually flirt with them by making them laugh, small touches on the arm, a lot of compliments (but not too much, don't scare them away) and eye contact. I am usually the first one to engage in conversation or flirtation, but sometimes you just gotta be to find out who they are, or if their gay or straight, you know? Flirting and relationships come naturally to me, and I realize they don't for some people, and some places don't have as high a gay and lesbian out population as we do. But goodluck anyways!
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Post by animefan2201 on Jan 5, 2013 9:38:46 GMT
How do you usually find a girlfriend? Where do you look? Do you ask her or does she ask you? What tips would you give somebody who never dated a female, but is looking & wants to? Those are the question I'm currently thinking as I try to find a girlfriend. So, what would you say? well... number 1, do you like girls or a curtain one? if so, build up your confidence and confess~ ive done that 3 time, last one was harder since ive been hiding it when i was dating no. 2.... were done now so im single and wanting to ask out one of my staight female friend... idk if its gonna go good... anyway, to find a girl that loves you, look at the way she acts, the girl you want to find would be the one you love and are close to, you feel confortable with.... this helped, da (im not russian, im teaching myself it)? |
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