What do you do if you fall for a straight girl?

[jessical]

I recently came out in a Catholic high school, and the first person I told was my crush. I didn't exactly tell her that I loved her. Her name is Leah and when I first met her the first day of my freshmen year ( before I came out I was blown away) she isn't the magazine pretty she's better she's athletic and so pretty. The day after I told her I had gym that means changing it was dead silent and everyone thought me and her were fighting! And so many people came up to me that day and asked why I was mad at her and I wanted to say " I'm not mad at her, I'm in love with her" every time I see her I forget about all the shit that's going on around me and just focus on her.

So I guess what I'm asking is how do I tell her, because I feel like she has the right to know?

[lark4run]

From what you have mentioned so far it looks like she’s still processing the information that you came out to her. How long has it been since you’ve told her? How has she acted a few days later, is your friendship still awkward, do people still thinking that you’re fighting?

She has probably already considered the fact that you are attracted to her but she doesn’t know for sure because you haven’t admitted it. I don’t know how it is for most people but when you get admitted to that someone you know are gay or bi (you didn’t specify if ur gay or bi so I’m trying to be general I think) they consider the possibility that the person may like them.

If your friendship has kind of “gone back to normal” with no awkwardness then you could probably tell her that you like her. She’s your friend so you know the most on how she will react.
If you are going to tell her then I think it’s best if you do it face to face that way you can gauge her reaction and she can tell that you are being serious. It should also be a place that you both feel safe and where you can be alone without any interruption; possibly where you came out to her that you like girls.

What you want from the relationship needs to be clearly stated whether or not you’re okay with the relationship staying a friendship or you want more. Also you need to prepare yourself for rejection; with the possibility of her being straight she might not reciprocate your feelings.

The biggest thing is trust. You need to be able to have trust in the other person that they will not react badly and with that trust that the worst that can happen is that they don’t reciprocate you feeling and they just want to be friends; nothing more.