kc817
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Post by kc817 on Apr 20, 2011 4:04:50 GMT
I just recently ended a 3yr relationship with my high school boyfriend after telling him that i am a lesbian. I am now dating one of my best friends that i have known for about 4 years now and i already know i love her more than anything in the world, i've come out to some of my family and together her and i have come out to very few of our friends although all of them are assuming we're together. I am proud to tell people she is my girlfriend and i love her with all of my heart but she is not as open about it. She is okay with strangers knowing but with most of our friends she doesn't want to confirm it for them and although she tells me she wants to tell her parents she wont and i usually can only see her while they're at work and even then i have to sneak into the house because her grandmother is there and i cant help but think she is ashamed of us and i am afraid if she tells them and they react badly she will break things off with me and i am terrified and i dont know how to deal with it.
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Post by ivygem on Apr 22, 2011 5:08:09 GMT
That's really sweet and it's great that you had even the courage to tell anyone let alone find a girlfriend. I think it's perfectly natural for her to be less open about it, it something you should talk to her about. I can't say I understand exactly whats going on but if I were you the best thing to do is have a conversation to her about why you are terrified. And, especially if it's a big change for you, it's alright to be scared. However I hope that everything works out alright because what you have is something truly amazing. It took me months to have the courage to tell my parents, maybe she just needs time to sort everything out.
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Post by kc817 on Apr 27, 2011 4:24:18 GMT
I've talked to her to try and tell her how I feel but part of me doesn't want to push her if she's not ready and the other part of me is afraid she's going to say she doesnt want to because she doesnt see us being that serious that she would need to tell them, which is stupid for me to think because we have already talked about being married (if and when it becomes legal in the state we live in) and she is the one who started that conversation. I know its stupid to feel this way. But I have never felt this way about anyone before. She did however confirm for all of our friends that we are together after they pissed her off by talking behind our backs to eachother about how they thought we are a couple. She got so irritated with them saying comments to eachother instead of coming to us and asking us that she walked up to me grabbed my face and kissed me in front of all of them, then proceeded to say, "yeah its true. I'm gay and we're together" ...not the way I thought we would tell them but what ever it was interesting.. and I guess its progress with her being comfortable with telling people.
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