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Post by kmadarasz on Aug 15, 2010 9:59:13 GMT
Alright, so I'm not sure where to post this. I don't feel right as a 'female', but I'm not sure I feel like a 'male' either - though I guess I have more masculine traits than feminine ones. I know I don't like girls. I really don't know what to call that, or if anyone has ever felt that way. I tried to tell my sister, and she believes that it is a phase that will pass.
I am not really sure what to think, or how to lable myself when people ask me what or who I am. I used to say that I was 'pansexual' then 'asexual' just because I really don't know, nor really feel any major sexual pull towards either gender, though I do feel a slight thing towards guys, but I'm not sure what it is about. The only friend I told jokingly calls my a gay guy in a female body, and I guess it is sort of more accurate? I don't know.
Is this common?
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Post by amoeba on Aug 20, 2010 5:19:18 GMT
The only way to know for sure is a lot of serious soul searching. It took me two years to get myself all "figured out". Before I realized I was trans, I lived in a state of perpetual confusion. I hated my body, though it was "ideal" I knew I liked girls but the thought of being a lesbian was as wrong as my body, the same thing being straight with a guy!
Ask yourself some questions, do you feel happy with your body? and I don't bean too fat or you don't like your hair, I mean, do you feel a discontentment, especially with your feminine features? Do you wonder or fantasise what it's like being the opposite sex or even not having sexual characteristics? Are you jealous of the the opposite sex? I was extremely jelous and very resentful as well, but I had no idea that was what I felt, because it was different from other jealousies. I wanted to push my guy friends away violently and yet admired them intensely at the same time.
Hope this helps even a little bit, just remember, identity is who you are, label is who you say you are.
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Post by lizstomania22 on Jan 14, 2011 2:49:24 GMT
I've always hated my body. I can't stand being a guy and I'm waaaaayyyy too feminine. I like who I am I just wish who I was on the inside fit my outside but... I'm still afraid of the idea of surgery....
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Post by prettyinpink79 on Apr 1, 2011 9:06:54 GMT
For some people this is called androgenous. They do not associate as one gender or the other. They feel they are somewhere in the middle. For some gender is a balance; sometimes you want to be more feminine and sometimes more masculine. For most this balance is kept in check with certain personality traits nut for some it's not so easily defined. You will have to see how to balance it on your own as everyone is different. I can say this; some are happy not being associated as male or female and they find being androgenous to the the most harmonious. Some find "cross dressing" ( I hate that label but for lack of better words) to be the answer. It just depends on the person.
As to ediquite; it is rude to refer to a person in the the gender they are obviously not representing. For example if someone is obviously dressed in femme they should be referred to in this sense and vice versa. I am a full time woman and I take great offense when called sir.
I hope this helps
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Post by amoeba on Apr 10, 2011 22:28:44 GMT
Nicely put Pink. Lately I've been feeling rather androgynous myself. My identety is still male, but my gender expression is all over the place. It's kind of annoying but hey, I've just gotta be me...and just when I thought I had everything sussed too.
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