what do you think i should do ?

[anny]

ok , so am a 20 year old girl and my girlfriend is 42 we are both deeply in love, however my girlfriend refuses to buy me drinks in public fearing she might get in troubles since the drinking age is 21 in NY , she has no problems with me drinking alone or at home or closed parties but not in public , and i dont want to make a big deal out of it as i understand her concerns but i also hate it when we go out with her friends and i cant drink i want to talk to her but i always feel selfish putting my needs ahead of hers . so do you think i should talk to her about this , i get very embarrassed while with her friends because sometimes they teas me about this .* i know they probably trying to point out what they think the ridiculous age gap between us* and i get really mad not being able to prove myself as an an equal partnership to them.
do you think am selfish asking my girlfriend to do what i want instead of what she should??
thanks

[acerayl]

Maybe you need to look at it a different way. When they tease you, let it roll of and act mature about it. Going at it that way may eventually make them look at you less as a child and more an adult. There are those of us who are able to drink but choose not to, even if the whole table is. Being able to drink publicly is not a sign of maturity or age, unless one keeps it a fresh topic. If it comes up, don’t ponder over it, don’t let it seem like it bothers you. Make them look like the fool by laughing it out. So what if you are not the legal drinking age, if that is the only thing they seem to have against you than clearly things are working out well between the two of you. This is honestly a small thing to worry about when you clearly sound happy with your mate. I understand the situation may seem uncomfortable, and that you can bring up. You should not feel like you are constantly in an uncomfortable situation. Just chat it over with her, let her know that at times it feels like her friends are bashing you about the age and not being able to drink, but remember, they are her friends, and even she may not be able to do too much about the situation.
You are in a relationship, one where you may want to keep an open and honest communication between the two of you. Though it is hard, things like this may be good to talk about; you may be seeing it to be more than it is. Take it one step at a time, see what happens.